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Sunday, June 6, 1999
I watched the coverage about gay pride day at disney and got a lump in my throat. I think it's great when people, who are harming no one, can enjoy themselves like everyone else and hold hands while doing it. I don't approve of everything about the gay movement because there is a promiscuity, particularly in the male gay group, that is harmful to society just as unbridled promiscuity in heterosexuals is dangerous to society . It's good that sex has become more open but it is still the most dangerous thing we do, not just because of diseases, but because it is such a barometer of how we feel other people should be treated, and the vast majority of promiscuity does treat the other person like an object, not a person. When you make a habit of treating other people like objects, then it can spread to other activities. Many highly ideological people also treat other people like objects as they are more interested in following the rules than listening to the other person. Many insecure people treat other people like objects as they can't function unless they can place everyone in a niche and they become furious if another person doesn't fit any of their niches. Nevertheless sex is still one of the most dangerous places to objectify another person, whether it be just a thing to have sex with or a woman who is suppose to be a "wife" and behave with what we feel is "wifely" behavior or a man who is suppose to be a "husband" and behave with what we feel is "husbandly" behaviour. Promiscuity is just so easy and anonymous that is is the easiest and, therefore, the easiest way to develop patterns of treating other people like objects. But to get back to gay pride, I'm glad when someone who is different or has a disability can be "normal", whether it is holding hands at disney or riding the bus by themselves or meeting friends at a restaurant without being a burden to someone or wearing a wild outfit or dancing along the sidewalk or talking to themselves (I'm thinking, I'm thinking!). We're all different but we try to fit into the slots that society has open and that always causes some warping of all of us. Enforcing rules that are necessary to protect people such as not hurting other people, is necessary, but most violence is because someone is trying to fit in a niche that they don't feel comfortable with or expecting everyone else to fit in their niche (not that that excuses their violence). I don't even mind the in your face demonstrations that many marginalized groups have, but they do need to watch that they don't objectify the "other". All Christians are not bigots and all whites are not racist and all men are not sexist and all blacks are not criminals and all orientals are not smart and all mexicans are not lazy and all blondes are not stupid. We all have some mixed blood in us (do you really think that there were no children born from all the raping and pillaging across the centuries?) and we all have violence in us and we all have wishes to be what we are told we shouldn't be and we all have some bi-sexuality in us, so deal with it, learn from it, and enjoy who you are.
Biked - 4 miles
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